Had this fairy tale intended to teach the lesson I’m talking about, Goldilocks would have come back when the bears were at home, been invited in, and then had the legitimate discovery that some like their chairs to be big and firm, some prefer them soft and pillowy, and that even if you can’t be in your own home, there are places where chairs, porridge, and beds can feel Just Right. Or at least comfortable enough to be able to sleep well at night.